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Frequently Asked Questions

Counselling and Play therapy room in Kobe, Kansai, Japan

Can I trust your confidentiality?
Yes. Even the fact that you have counselling will not be disclosed unless you specifically request me to contact someone and sign a disclosure form. The only exception is if you disclose that yourself or someone else (particularly a child) is at risk and I need to take action – suitable action would usually be discussed with you first. I have a professional supervisor to ensure good quality counselling, however disclosing clients' identity is avoided.

How long does counselling take?
Research shows the greatest benefits for are often in the first 6 weeks for some issues, though many people continue longer. As a very general rule of thumb, the longer since the difficulty has been going on, the longer counselling will be needed. Some people find a one-off session is enough, others come back once every few months. . However for ongoing work it is important to make some commitment and let me know, even if only for a few sessions, as I need to know you will be coming back next week to start work on difficult issues.

Do you offer counselling in other languages?/ What if the client doesn’t speak fluent English?
Although I speak Japanese fairly well, I am not fluent enough to offer counselling in Japanese or other languages. However I’m used to working with people who speak only a little English and this usually works fine. I welcome people of all nationalities and backgrounds.

Will counselling will work for me?
It would be wrong to say you can ever be certain of the outcome of counselling. However practically everyone who has come for more than a couple of sessions has said it has been a positive experience, and for some it is life-changing. Research suggests that the most important factor in successful therapy is the client's motivation and type of difficulty, and the second is a good relationship with the counsellor. You are welcome to have a one-off trial or discussion over the phone if you are unsure whether it is right for you.

When is the right time to start counselling?
If you are looking at this site it’s probably the right time. People have counselling at different times for different reasons. During a crisis, it can help support you enough to keep going and make necessary decisions, but when things are calmer can be a good time to really think deeply and make long-term changes. Sometimes an event or realisation or even a dream acts as a trigger that brings up an issue from long ago, but counselling is also a way to get perspective on current problems such as relationships. If you have been feeling there is something you'd like to do something about, now might be the time to start.

I had counselling once before – is it worth trying again?
Yes, probably. There are many kinds of counselling and not every counsellor suits every person. Unfortunately some counsellors are also simply not very good. Sometimes counselling doesn’t achieve what you hope at first but it may be that your situation has changed or a different perspective will be different. Many people have said counselling didn’t make much difference to them before, but ended up saying it was more profound than they ever hoped; others like to come back for further personal development after successful counselling. I recommend you to discuss with me anything that went wrong before, or why you feel it didn’t work well, as well as how far you did get, in order to make best use of what you did before and avoid unnecessary repetition.

Is counselling regulated? / Are you licensed?
Private counselling is not regulated by law in Japan or the UK. However I am an accredited member of the self-regulatory national organisation BACP (British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy) and UKRCP (United Kingdom Register of Counsellors and Psychotherapists) which is a register of approved therapists which has been established in the process of moving to statutory regulation of counselling and psychotherapy in the UK. I work within their Ethical Framework for Good Practice, and regulations include annual re-accreditation procedure and ongoing training requirements. I am also a clinical associate member of IMHPJ (International Mental Health Professionals Japan) and bound by their ethics commitment.

Are you supervised?
Yes. As is standard practice I employ a qualified independent supervisor for consultation to ensure good quality counselling practice.

Is there a cancellation policy?
Yes. Regularity is important and missing appointments is sometimes related to the issues discussed, so it is necessary to be strict to reduce missed appointments which limit the effectiveness of counselling, as well as to keep the cost to a minimum for everyone. You are normally expected to pay the normal price for cancellations or non-attendance beyond one appointment in every 10. If you expect to have particular difficulties with this please discuss it beforehand.

What if my friend/partner/family member needs counselling?
Thank you for doing something to help them. If your friend or relative seems to have a mental health problem, be depressed or unhappy for a long time, has experienced a serious loss or trauma such as rape, is drinking too much, or is suffering from difficulties or loss of direction in their life, or has harmed themselves or threatened to, counselling may well help them. However the position of a friend/relative can be difficult. The best situation to preserve the independence of the counsellor is for you to tell the person what you have found about about counselling and encourage them to make contact themselves. If they are willing, you are welcome to come with them to meet me, although I will usually want to hear about the situation in their words. If the person knows they have a problem but does not think counselling will help (possibly because they are too depressed to think anything will help) it may be necessary to encourage them. However if they refuse or do not think there is a problem at all it may be necessary to wait until the person involved recognises it as a difficulty before they are willing to consider getting support. This does not mean you yourself are prevented from getting support however, supporting or living with a person with such difficulties is itself very hard and often undermines your own well-being, particularly if you are coping alone, and you may both benefit if you get support for yourself to help you to deal with the situation in the best way possible. On the other hand, if you are closely related as a couple or family, it may be better to come together from the start and view the difficulty as a family matter - in this way it becomes clear that the situation is a problem which needs to be dealt with while avoiding stigmatising one person alone. If you are concerned about a child please see the pages on children and families.

If your questions have not been answered above please telephone 078 453 1030 or email englishcounselling@gmail.com

Home Background & Qualifications Counselling Children, Parents & Families Organisations & Groups FAQs Contact, Access & Prices 日本語
Please contact me if you have further questions or wish to arrange an initial meeting

Lil Wills, MBACP, UKRCP

Telephone no: 0081-(0)78-453-1030
email: englishcounselling@gmail.com